Be Sure You Are Motivated by The Right Things

Good morning, I know it's been awhile, but I have a question for you. What is motivating you?

Did you know that most of us are motivated by trauma? The past trauma in our life propels us to be extremely diligent in not having that unpleasant act repeated. Fractured parental relationships drive us to be better parents, abusive marriages drive us to be better spouses, and our past lives of consent cause us to hold ourselves in higher regard.

However, if our trauma is motivating us, have we truly healed from it? I

It is not until our decisions and motivations are spurred by what's inside of us that we have truly arrived.

Unhealed trauma creates the need for attention and attention is addictive.

We now have to show everyone that we have arrived, that we are no longer that past person, and that in spite of their trauma and name calling we have excelled. So we become so hell bent on presenting a pristine external image while we are suffering internally.

With attention comes pressure.

You will find that it is much harder to preserve a lie than it is to tell one. Now you must remember the lie and create other lies to support it. Being motivated by the pressure of the opinions of others is the very thing that leads to depression and suicide. Humans can be very fickle, and the person who was once in your corner can quickly switch teams or may have never been on your team at all .

Your goals HAVE TO motivate you .

Your desire to be better, fitter, wealthier, and more stable has to come from inside. Not from a negative stimulus caused by fear of trauma or the approval of others, but for your own satiation and self-worth.

So, set your goals, outline the steps needed to acquire them, and immediately start pressing towards it. The satisfaction that comes from self-motivation is so much more edifying.

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