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If you have not heard, being a man is not a you an easy task. The amount of responsibility, pressure, and resiliency needed is not for the faint at heart. As men traverse the daily rigors involved in negotiating the many pitfalls of our society, they all seek the same thing, peace. Men have been taught to be problem solvers, so their very nature is to be peacekeepers.
Yes, a man will utilize physical strength and violence to achieve a purpose, but this is only after his peace or the safety of those he loves has been threatened. Men understand their God-given responsibilities, which are to provide and protect, and a good man will never abandon those principles. Using every resource they can, a man will create an environment of comfort for those he has committed his life to. These individuals benefit from his industrious and protective attributes.
You will find that most men are not loquacious as they are instinctively listening and probing the environment for danger. The nature of a good man is always forward thinking and solution oriented. When faced with an issue whether personal or professional, he immediately generates a game plan to solve or resolve the discrepancy. Men are natural leaders and are autonomous or solitary. He would rather decipher his way through a conundrum than to be told the answer at the beginning of his journey.
As skilled as a man is in the art of war and the use of power, he refuses to recycle conflicts. He will not remain in a sustained war and will not continually engage in a fight for territory. If forced to continually be in a state of conflict or tension, what results is a man that has appeared to have lost the voice in his household. This is the man that you have seen isolate himself in the corner of his household and takes no part in the decision-making or the daily operations of his family.
This man was not always like this, but he has given in to a sustained war for position. His decisions have been questioned, his authority has been amputated, and his patience has been worn thin.
Men are not emasculated in one broad stroke. No, the process starts with a consistent barrage of questioning his decisions, followed by ignoring his decisions, and finally by removing him from the decision-making process.
This process causes him to feel more like a child than an equal partner. He will only engage in this fight for territory for so long before he starts to protect himself.
Men strategically and naturally buffer themselves within a space of generated peace.
Like a brick mason, he will slowly but surely block himself off from anything that disturbs his peace.
If the household environment presents itself as a consistent place of conflict, he will build his own wall within that home while still providing and protecting.
The man you now see has become isolated, sullen, stoic, and apathetic to things around him.
He is behind his wall allowing scabs to form over his wounds caused by the methodical emasculation of his manhood.
Once the wall is complete it is a daunting task to penetrate or encourage him to remove it.
Peacefulness is where he feels safe and his isolation restores his control, even if that control is only over himself.
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