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In the animal world, mate selection varies. Many animals are chosen as mates by the length of their feathers, height, the brilliance of their colors, and how impressive their dance is. However, the most intriguing selection is based on genetic strength; many males are chosen because they represent traits that will be beneficial to the offspring.
I have spoken with a few of my friends lately who are searching for love or relationships. Many say that their dating relationships seem to be progressing fine until they are suddenly ghosted or the whole theme of the relationship changes. As I listened, I wondered, "what are you bringing to the table?"
When people turn a certain age, they have done an inventory of what is no longer acceptable. They have also reached a certain level of stability and will look to their partner to add to that stability.
Women who are established are no longer interested in training up their mates. They are no longer interested in building a boy into a man. They are in a mental space that is focused on progression. If their potential mate displays behaviors such as no desire to strive, financial instability, or no plan for the future, it will easily and quickly push her away.
Men who have matured are no longer interested in wrestling with a potential mate who is jockeying for authority instead of an equitable power balance. They are motivated by a woman who has a plan well before he arrives on the scene. Men will get frustrated when they have to pull their mate along as they attempt to obtain stability or remain stable.
Men are no longer interested in liabilities; if you are not adding to the future, you are a threat to his future.
It is in a good man’s nature to provide and protect, but he is not interested in raising another child; he wants a partner who stands eye to eye with him so that they can take on the world together.
Please do not be fooled; opposites only attract in Science. In relationships, opposites create a tug of war that eventually causes everyone to lose. So, take a moment and look at yourself and ask, “what am I bringing to the table?”
If you are more party than purpose, you will not edify a forward-thinking partner.
If you believe saving money is ridiculous because “you live for the day,” you will be of no value to a person preparing for a prosperous retirement. Revaluate yourself and see what you add to a relationship. When it’s all said and done, you will have two choices, increase what you bring to a relationship or simply choose another table.
Awesome!